• Kayli Parsons

The Truth About Moving to NYC Alone

Here’s what they don’t tell you about moving to NYC alone: while New York City is considered to be one of the most magical places in the world, it can also be very hard to navigate on your own.

New York City is one of the largest cities in the world, but it can make you feel immensely alone. With 8 million people, there are friends and companions for everyone but when first coming to the city, it can be an extremely lonely place. What you’ve heard is true, most people here are cold, rude, and standoff-ish.

I don't want this to deter you, once you meet your people, you are in one of the best cities in the world. There is so much to do and so many things to see. But you have to be willing to put yourself out there.

Coming to NYC alone at 23 was intimidating, there are many times that I still get homesick and feel so incredibly alone, but pushing through those feelings has led to one of the best experiences of my life.

People tell you this but you won't fully understand until you live here: the city is dirty and it smells.

Like any major city, New York City has its ups and downs. The rats, roaches and other creatures here are no joke, the city is beautiful but it is far from clean. This is something to consider when apartment hunting: what does the neighborhood look like? Could rodents potentially be a problem? One of my friends had a great apartment overlooking Madison Square Park but had woken up one night to find endless roaches in her living room.

Tip: While living above a restaurant can have its perks, it can also attract roaches and other things, so think carefully before signing a lease.

Another thing people don’t tell you: dating here is hard.

Most people in NYC are focused more on work than they are on relationships. It's called "the city that never sleeps" for a reason, people are constantly hustling trying to make money, enhance their career, or make a name for themselves. But with a successful career comes more stress and less time for dating. Everyone knows of the stereotypical "finance man", they are a dime a dozen here and while they may sound intriguing, they work grueling hours, live in a high-stress environment, and often don't have time for a serious relationship. I’ve heard that especially in your 30’s and 40’s New York City can be a hard place to find a serious relationship if you're looking to settle down. While the quantity here is abundant, the quality may not be what you're looking for.

Again, I don't want to deter anyone from moving to NYC, it truly is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, but you have to be prepared for all of the ups and downs that come with living here.

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